This is why men must be careful not to even allow close friendships to form with other women.
They might say it’s fair game, but we need to be developing closer connections in our home, not away from it.
Think about this – what is it that you can possibly compliment her on that will allow you to either not come off as a phony or completely bore her?
Let’s tackle the “bore her” part first – you bore her when you compliment her looks – if she’s pretty then she’s been told since her teenage years the same thing over and over and over and over again – she gets that she’s pretty – because she’s been told hundreds – if not thousands of times.
Often, they too are surprised at how their emotional friendship turned into something deeper and physical when that was not their original intention. Chemistry is powerful, and people are deeply searching for companionship and love.
When a couple is not actively engaged in nurturing their marital love, they risk danger.
Dan Marino, Hall of Fame quarterback, husband of 28 years and champion of autism awareness, cheated on his wife and fathered a child in 2005 with a CBS employee.
Marino has always been seen as a clean-cut family man.
When men feel emotionally disconnected at home, too many make the horrifying choice to find it somewhere else instead of working to reconnect with their wives.
Not that cheating is ever justified; it is an ugly choice.
But the similar desire to be actively in love has driven us to marry, and sadly, can drive many to look outside their marriage for that love as well.
Our marriages need the same ingredients, and if we feel our love is faltering, that’s the time to go to our spouse and discuss how to fix it.
It might seem easier — at the moment — to start a relationship elsewhere, but no cheater has ever told me he’s happy it happened. He might have been heading for divorce anyway, but he never feels good about what he did to his family when he chose to cheat. But until he worked as hard on his marriage as he did on being a great quarterback and dad, he risked his loving home.