If your date can't handle the fact that you want to protect yourself, you probably aren't interested in him anyway." If your relationship continues -- and it's an exclusive arrangement for both of you -- unprotected sex might be OK but only after you both get tested for sexually transmitted diseases -- and wait for reassuring results.
Experts warn not to take risks, no matter how convincing your partner may be.
"And there is no more efficient vehicle than the Internet." "Remember that you are looking for a good fit, not validation," Rosenfeld continues.
And if it's great - you'll have someone to celebrate with. There will be plenty of time for such discussions if you continue dating, but a first meeting should be light and breezy. Don't pressure yourself into deciding if this is the person you want to grow old with -- remember, its just coffee!
What's important to remember here is: It's your timetable.
So, don't hesitate to slow things down if your date is ready, but you are not.
Whether or not pregnancy is a possibility, you need to make sure you are protected from HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases.
San Francisco relationship expert and writer Mera Granberg advises women to carry condoms if there is any chance they will be having sex.